A tremendous amount of stress naturally goes along with wedding planning. It’s meant to be the happiest day on your life, but that doesn’t negate the fact that it also requires a tremendous amount of work. Here are five things to keep in mind when you’re planning a wedding.
1. You Can’t Do This Alone
Very rarely are people expected to plan the party where they are also the guest of honor, but that’s exactly what a wedding is. Asking for help is more than reasonable: it’s imperative. Not only are there a million things to do, but many of them overlap. You can’t be everywhere at once, and this is the last day that you should feel a need to.
The maid of honor and best man are good individuals to ask for help. They are two of your dearest friends. They will understand. They probably actively want to help. They just might not have offered because they aren’t privy to your needs.
2. Ultimately, It’s Your Party
You’re sensitive to the needs and wants of your friends and family, which is great until they become a complicated mess. You’re not going to be able to keep everyone happy all the time.
Moreover, decisions need to be made. There is a time to gather people’s opinions, but there’s also a time when you make the best decisions for what is ultimately your party.
3. The Chicken Dance is not a Tradition
You will be told a dozen times that certain things have to be done, because that’s just how weddings are. Unless you’re talking to your officiant (and sometimes even if you are), that’s usually nonsense. Receiving lines, grand marches, kissing while guests clink their glasses, the Chicken Dance, bouquet throws, garter tosses, these are things that many people do. That doesn’t mean skipping them will destroy the sanctity of your marriage.
You have enough to do. Don’t plan things you don’t want. And, honestly, don’t put up with things that aren’t your style just because someone says that’s how weddings are normally done.
4. Feed Your Vendors
We get so caught up trying to remember all of the family and friends that need to make it on the invitation list that we can forget the people we hire would appreciate a meal too. At the top of that list is the officiant. He or she should be invited to both the rehearsal dinner and the wedding reception. You should also consider the photographers, who will be with you from the moment you start getting ready before the ceremony until at least the cutting of the cake, many hours later.
5. After-Reception Logistics
By the end of the night, you’re going to be exhausted. Don’t forget there will still be things to do at the end of the reception! Gifts need to be transported somewhere, and there could be a lot. There may be things you’re responsible for boxing up as well, such as rented centerpieces.
These are not jobs for you. Many bridal couples don’t even make it to the end of the reception due to exhaustion. Perhaps no job delegation is as important as this one.